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Celebrating Thirty Years: Wedding Stories

May 13, 2026 by Ellen 2 Comments

John and I will celebrate thirty years of marriage this month! My, how time flies when you’re having fun! Why, it seemed like just yesterday when…

…I explained ever so lovingly to my sweet Daddy that I would like to have my two brothers walk me down the aisle when John and I married.  

Daddy had the honor at my first wedding, but he had become more feeble over the years. I knew I would be the one holding him up if he escorted me.  

If you know me, you know I can cry real tears at the drop of a hat. I inherited that tender-hearted trait from my Daddy. I could well imagine him sobbing, hanging on my arm, and shedding rivers of tears, all while I’m carrying him down the aisle and trying not to cry!

In addition, I wanted my two brothers as a “show of force.” I had been through one divorce, and I wanted to make sure John was absolutely positive this would be a “forever” marriage. I’m pretty sure he imagined the brothers with guns hidden under their jackets! And that’s ok.

…We looked back at our wedding pictures, and saw a stranger! All my family from Mississippi had driven over to Louisiana for the nuptials. I couldn’t wait to see the group shots with my whole family. Every single person! 

Turns out, my great-niece had brought one of her little friends along to keep her company. This friend was in EVERY SINGLE family picture we took. As a matter of fact, she showed up in my in-laws’ family picture, too! 

What a memory! After thirty years, we still laugh about our “adopted” relative in the wedding pictures.

…I burst into tears on our honeymoon. No, it wasn’t the nightmare you may be imagining! We went to Natchez, MS, a very historic and quaint town, with many antebellum homes and a slew of antique stores. John and I love browsing through antique shops. On the way out of one store, I glanced at a picture hanging above the door and promptly burst into tears!The Picture

It looked just like a framed picture my Mama had in our home growing up.  I had such fond memories of that picture, and eventually Mama gave it to me. I never hung it, because my ex-husband didn’t really care for it. 

After the divorce, I had a garage sale and sold that beautiful picture for $10.  Money was tight, and I knew I would need to downsize.  A month or so after the sale, I was visiting friends and saw the picture! It was the same, except with a different frame.  I asked about it, and they told me it had been in their family for many years. I told them the story of my picture and how I sold it for $10. They almost fainted. “It’s an antique! It’s worth much more than that!”

When I saw that picture in the Natchez antique store, all the pre-wedding and wedding emotions came pouring out! As we walked around the block, I flooded my new husband with tears and told him the story of “my” picture.  

He went back to the store and bargained with the owner to buy the picture.  Unfortunately, we didn’t have enough cash with us! Not to be outdone, John and I walked up and down the streets of that little town looking for an ATM—and found one! He purchased the picture and gave it to me as a wedding gift!

Mama and Daddy did not know I had to sell their precious picture.  After the honeymoon, I finally had to ‘fess up. I cried, my Daddy cried, Mama shed a few tears, and I think John may have cried a bit himself. 

Mama and Daddy had loved John from the get-go, because he always opened my car door for me (still does). After they found out he purchased “my” family picture to hang on the walls of our home, they loved him even more! 

Yep, time sure does fly when you’re having fun!

Now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love. 1 Corinthians 13:13 (HCSB) 

Happy anniversary, John Chauvin! 

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14 Ways to Love Your Husband – Part 2

February 10, 2022 by Ellen Leave a Comment

Valentine’s Day is almost here!  I’m sharing some hints on loving your husband.  The list is endless, so I’ve narrowed it down to fourteen. Feel free to pop over to Part 1 for the first seven helpful hints. Today, let’s look at Part Two, or Part Deux as they say in south Louisiana.

8. Forgive

Let’s face it. Guys sometimes don’t think like we do. My sweet husband was concerned about weight I had gained several years back – and rightly so! It was more than I had ever weighed in my life. However, when he was talking with me about it, he used the “O” word – obesity. Now, before you get your feathers in a ruffle, he DID NOT say I was obese. He was just concerned that I was headed in that direction. But, bless his heart, you just don’t use that word when you are talking to a woman about her weight.  I don’t think I spoke to him for two days. TWO DAYS. Two days out of our lives that are wasted, because I didn’t have the sense and maturity to forgive him. Ladies, please don’t ever waste precious time away from your husband like I did. Forgive him.  “…love keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians 13:5

9. Your home, his castle 

Make your home a safe haven for you hubby.  Make it a peaceful place for him.  John travels quite a bit.  When he’s gone, I don’t cook, do laundry or dishes.  But when he walks through the door, I try to make sure all the mess is picked up (not tonight, I’m writing tonight). Ok, I’m not as good at this as I use to be. I’ve relaxed a lot in my old age. But I do try to be his helpmate. I know he’ll be tired when he comes home, so if necessary I take care of chores that he usually does. Yes, like take the trash out and put a fresh 5 gallon water bottle on the cooler (Heavy!). Make your home a peaceful, loving place. He’ll look forward to arriving at his castle each evening!

10. Be Kind 

Titus 2:4-5 says that older women are to encourage the younger women to love their husbands and children, and to be kind (among other things). I thought it odd that the younger women had to be taught how to be kind. After all, kindness begins at home, doesn’t it? Sometimes you would never know this by the way I act. I can be kinder to a stranger in Wal-mart than I can to my husband, when I’m in “a mood.” Let’s be kind to our husbands, “so that the word of God may not be dishonored.” (Titus 2:5). 

11. PRACTICE PATIENCE.  I had to put this one in all caps, mainly for me, hee hee! Count to ten. Then, count to ten again.   And again, and again.

12. Don’t Husband Bash 

Ever been in a conversation with some girlfriends that went something like this:

“You wouldn’t believe what a slob my husband is. I wish he would learn to pick up his stuff!” 

“You think yours is a slob, mine is such an idiot! He can’t even make the simplest repairs around the house!”

And on it goes, getting worse and worse.  This is dangerous and destructive behavior.  It is contagious and spreads like a virus! RUN FROM IT! Husband bashing is extremely damaging to your marriage. The more you dwell on your perceived wrongs in your husband, the more unhappy you will become.

Don’t participate in these conversations.  Try to steer them back to positive aspects of your spouses. If you can’t, I say again: RUN FROM IT!

Be especially careful in front of the children or grandchildren. They need to see your respect for your man, not your scorn for him.

13. Say thank you. Always. For every little thing. Let him know you appreciate him.  

14. Laugh. Laughing together is good medicine for any marriage. And it relieves stress.The other night John and I were laughing so hard, I had tears streaming. Turns out I slept like a baby that night! Laughter is good medicine.

Remember, there are many, many ways you can love on and encourage your sweet hubby each day. Be alert to hints he may unknowingly give. You won’t be sorry!

Grace be with you,

Ellen

(This post first appeared February 2015)

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