Ephesians 4:26 (NKJV): “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath.
To all my sisters in Christ: have you ever wondered if you were a child of God or a Menopause Monster (MM)? Have you ever had one of those days when you read the scriptures on anger, and just IGNORE them? Have you ever been mentally punching air – just to punch something? Yeah, me too!
My husband would tell you that I have been MM lately – and I’m not talking about the sweet candy we all love! The lady at the car dealership would say the same thing about me! Here’s my story:
A few days ago at 5 p.m., I jumped into my car – READY to go home. It was one of those intensely hot days, when you can see the heat shimmering off the road. But not to worry! The a/c in my little Altima was a WORKHORSE! My car would be cooled down in no time! Good thing, because the temperature reading was above 100! As I drove down the road, I noticed the air was still hot. And as I turned onto the main highway, I knew there was a problem. I began pushing all the buttons – power, a/c, vent – in hopes of “resetting” the air conditioner. Sweat was breaking out on my forehead and in my pits. When I got to a side street, I even turned my CAR off and then back on. NOTHING…but hot air!
I did what I always do when I have car trouble – I called my sweet husband. Now, I KNEW he wouldn’t be able to help, since he was out of town. But he IS my go-to guy on all matters automotive.
Me: “Honey, the a/c in my car is NOT WORKING! It’s just blowing hot air!”
John: “Darlin’, there’s nothing I can do about it from here. You’ll just have to call the dealership in the morning.”
Me, through clenched teeth: “I REALIZE you can’t do anything. I just wanted you to KNOW what was going on!”
There is nothing like a hormonal, menopausal hot flash to bring anger bubbling to the surface. And what is the quickest thing to cause a hot flash? Yes, HEAT! I was steaming all the way home – physically and mentally!
By the next morning, I had calmed down somewhat (it took that long), and in my quiet time I read the scriptures on anger. Wow, was I convicted! Later, as I was driving to the dealership to have my car serviced, I had the sun roof open, the windows down, and KLOVE was blaring on the radio!
When I arrived, the young woman in the service department explained that they would drive me to work and pick me up at 4 p.m. to bring me home. I knew that I couldn’t leave work at 4:00, so I told her I would bring my car in tomorrow, when my husband could drive me. And that’s when she said it. THOSE WORDS.
“We are pretty booked up tomorrow; we may not be able to take your car.” WHAT? In this heat, you can’t quickly check the a/c on my car??
I flew off the handle, and let her know in no uncertain terms that I would bring my car in tomorrow, and they had better fix it! I haven’t even had the car a year and the air conditioning was out! It needs to be FIXED!
She was very kind, and kept saying “I understand. I understand.” And I kept spewing.
Funny thing: if she had gotten into my car and heard the music, she would have thought “This lady listens to Jesus music, but she sure doesn’t act like Him!”
Can you relate? If so, what’s a daughter of the King supposed to do?
The first thing I should have done was to recognize my anger for what it was: sin. Anger becomes sinful when it is motivated by pride or is allowed to linger. Zodhiates Word Study Dictionary describes wrath in Ephesians 4:26 this way: “an aroused anger or seething exasperation. Such anger is contrary to the Spirit and Word of God.” Ouch! Seething exasperation described me exactly!
Recognizing my anger as sin, I should have then surrendered the situation to God. But I did not. I chose to cling to my anger. I wallowed in it, and let it linger. Obviously the wrong choice!
As I continue my walk with the Lord through these hormonal days (weeks, months, years???), I will remember that apart from Him, I can do nothing. And with Him, all things are possible – even surrendering my prideful anger!
Heavenly Father, I praise You as El Roi, the God who sees me. You see all my imperfections and accept me just as I am. Yet You love me enough to want me to change! Thank You! Lord, I lift ALL my 50-something friends to You, and pray that You will strengthen us as we navigate this new season in our lives. In the powerful name of Jesus, Amen.Old Faithful – right before she spews!
Elizabeth Guisasola says
Love it!!!! Boy can I relate!! Glad I’m not the only one this happens to. Love your blog!
Beth Marque says
Thank You Ellen My sister in Christ for being real and also showing all our imperfections
how God keeps forgiving us and also healing all our wounds. God has allow me to see my wounds a little at a time. I look forward to reading and allowing God to use you . Press on, write your blog!
Awesome Ellen! Thanks for sharing!
thank you for being so real I will look forward to getting on my computer now.LOL. to read your future blogs.
Jill Sexton says
Ellen, This was good to read and thank you for the realness of it all. I know we can all relate. Praise God for His word and teaching us to obey it. Thank you for sharing! I hope you will be inspired and continue to share what God has put on your heart. Praying for you and the next post! 🙂
Coleen Ritter says
O my little Elle Belle, you are a gifted writer!!! You made me laugh so hard cuz I saw myself all in this when I suffer from a hotflash and the heat!!! But you also helped me to see how God can help “in all our circumstances” if we ask Him, giving ourselves willingly to Him daily, and for His forgiveness and unfailing love when we fail. I cannot wait to read on as I know He will bless you for this. Girl, it gave me courage, strength to go forward in my daily walk, and God is blessing us as He blesses you! Thank you for being obedient, and for helping us to “keep the faith” with you. Love you!!
Beth Marque says
Ellen, What a wonderful entry and the timing is perfect for me. I’m reading this book by Sandra D. Wilson, “Hurt People Hurt People.” An odd title, but so true. It is about how hurt people hurt others because they themselves have been hurt. It has made me look at the people who have hurt me and be able to better see them as God sees them. But even better it has made me look inward at myself and evaluate my relationships with others. Thanks for the beautiful blog. Your writing is fantastic and John’s pictures are professional and an added treat. You are loved, Beth